I clearly remember my first week as a fresher, the excitement of walking onto campus for the very first time and starting my education in the UK. After spending most of my secondary education in Ghana, where I had to wear a school uniform every day, I was excited to see what lay ahead and to explore how people expressed their personalities through their clothing, and creativity through their makeup. I met many people from different cultures and backgrounds, which changed my perspective on the world in ways I never imagined.
However, this excitement was short-lived. As Freshers’ Week came to an end, I noticed the return of the so-called “Exeter Uniform”. This included white linen trousers, Tom’s Trunks, the Ralph Lauren teddy jumper, and the classic North Face puffer jacket. Everywhere I looked, I saw the same Adidas Gazelles, Sambas, UGG boots, and Birkenstocks in different colours, while everyone tucked away their summer dresses for the Enchanted Garden Ball.
… white linen trousers, Tom’s Trunks, the Ralph Lauren teddy jumper, and the classic North Face puffer jacket.
Slowly, I began to lose my sense of who I was and who I wanted to be. I found myself torn between staying true to my individuality or following the Exeter trend. I’m glad I chose to be myself. I admit that wearing the “Exeter Uniform” felt like an easy way to fit in and make friends, as one is able to blend in with everyone else.
While there’s nothing wrong with the “Exeter Uniform”, losing your individuality just to belong is a problem. If being myself makes me “weird,” I’ll take that every day.
As a person of color, I naturally stood out at Exeter, but I loved finding others like me, people who were genuine and bonded over our differences. There were times when I faced strange looks and a feeling of being left out, but I also felt comfortable being myself and stopped stressing about changing to fit in. Here are a few ways I maintained my individuality at university:
(i) Societies: During my first term, I explored the usual societies related to my degree but quickly realised they weren’t for me. Instead, I decided to join the Bake Society, where people from diverse backgrounds came together over our love for baking. I felt at home there, away from the pressure to fit into certain stereotypes. Look for societies that match who you are and reflect your interests. Check out the society list and pick ones that truly excite you.
(ii) Events: I attended various events that suited my interests, sometimes going alone and sometimes with friends. From Henna-making classes to exciting escape rooms and different cultural celebrations, each experience helped me grow and appreciate diversity.
(iii) Sports Clubs: Joining a well-known sports club might seem like it fits the Exeter stereotype. However, many students don’t realise there are plenty of activities beyond rugby, soccer, and tennis. In my first year, I struggled to find a sport that suited me until I discovered archery. This club attracted a friendly and diverse group of people, and I really enjoyed being part of something different.
(iv) Make time for yourself: One of the best ways to maintain your individuality is to spend time alone, away from the pressures of university. It’s important to continue pursuing the hobbies you enjoyed before starting your studies. Personally, when I felt myself drifting away, I took time to read and focus on my art.
University is just a small part of your life, only three to four years. University should be a place where you discover who you really are, not where you lose yourself trying to be someone you’re not.
In regard to the topic of this article, a spokesperson from Exeter Students’ Guild said, “Whatever your pace looks like, you deserve to feel supported in it. University can be a lot, and it’s completely okay if it takes time to find your rhythm. Whether you’re leaning into new opportunities or stepping back to recharge, your Students’ Guild is here to help you find what feels right for you. From our weekly events programme to our advice and support services, there are plenty of ways for you to get involved in ways that feel manageable to you. Visit exeterguild.com to find out more.”
